I've Learned Much

Life has continued at a rapid pace since I last wrote in May. In between Gary and working I've had health setbacks needing off my feet healing and the deaths of two long time friends.
I finally became so overwhelmed trying to do Gary's taxes on my own that I melted down and called a highly recommended and reasonable tax man.  It was fortunate that when I became the fiduciary for Gary I asked them for every form they had that I may need but also informed them he had little to no money in his estate. But, by law they must be filed whether or not they can be paid.

The tax man was great, especially when he discovered I had all the necessary papers to complete the forms. All the receipts I had so carefully added and stapled were not needed after all.  Within 2 hours I left with everything done except for my signing them all and sending them off.  That was the last week of July and I am still waiting to hear what happens next as there is almost no money for the $5900 he owes them.

I am so out of order, hah!, my life is so out of order. Bear with me.  I was able to finally bury Gary and his daughter, Becky Mae together in the same plot as my father on June 24th. It was on overcast blustery day and as per Gary's firm wishes there was no graveside service. His other daughter, Cyndi was there with Becky's ashes and my daughter Melanie. It was peaceful and what he wanted.

Last week I was able to go to a local family owned monument company and select a headstone. Dad's is a little smaller but it was only for one soul. As Gary's had two I chose a larger, but not obtrusive,
headstone that could respectfully list   Gary (father) and Becky (daughter). I chose a pretty rose to be beside Becky's name and on the opposite side, a fish as Gary took his kids fishing whenever he could. I hope his family will approve. The most important thing is the feeling of accomplishment and peace that Gary must have given me when I made the final decision and paperwork. It was odd, the sense of his spirit around at certain times that are almost tangible. I think he's overseeing it all.  Soon, he can rest.  By the first week of October the headstone will be placed.

I've learned much from all of this and am in the process of further making me and my husband's wishes legally known and papers in safe keeping.